My name is Divinar Joseph. I believe it’s only by God’s own hand that I celebrate quadruplets every day.
At what point did you know you were carrying more than one baby? How did you feel?
I noticed I was pregnant with quadruplets at 12 weeks.
How was the pregnancy?
I had a troubled, high-risk, delicate pregnancy which led to me getting laid off from work. I was given a McDonald stitch, which means my cervix was stitched. I also got threatened miscarriage almost five times which resulted in me being admitted to reverse the miscarriage.
Finally, when I had the sixth threatened miscarriage at 32 weeks, the doctors tried to reverse it but the babies were ready to come out since the stitches were already unravelling.
How was the birth experience?
I delivered at 32 weeks, prematurely, exactly one year ten months ago. The babies had very low birth weights and so had to stay in hospital for about two months. They were in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) for one month and the High Dependency Unit (HDU) for another month. Lara and Lyanna weighed 1.6kg each, Libby was 1.5kg and Lisa 1.2kg.
This really drained us financially because the bill was almost 7 million shillings. I had also lost my teaching job because of recommended bed rest as I finished my first trimester.
How is the experience so far?
Despite of the financial constraints we are going through, I love the journey with my babies and it has been quite fulfilling. Their first birthday was a “miracle” and we are looking forward to the second birthday on 22nd June. Lara, Libby, Lyanna, Lisa, and their elder sister Lana, who is 6 years old, are all so cute😍
It has been quite an expensive affair bringing these kids up, especially now that my husband, who is the sole breadwinner, recently underwent a heart surgery and is now recovering but hasn’t resumed work yet. Many people knew our financial background and now that we are struggling to go back to our initial financial status, some laugh and criticize us. Others tell us, “Mlienda Aga Khan to waste millions when KNH is free.” We’ve also experienced cyber-bullying.
How is being a mum to multiples different?
Being a mum to one kid makes you a parent, being a mother of two kids makes you a referee but being a mum of more than two kids makes you a bouncer!
Because we have had a high turnover of house-helps, I have decided to be a stay-at-home mum to take of the kids as I look for any opportunity that arises.
Is there anything else you would like to share?
I think that other people should know that only the shoe-wearer understands where it pinches. You will never understand a journey if you have not walked through it.
I would also like to appreciate the hospital staff and a number of friends who have walked with us through thick and thin.
Lastly am grateful to the Almighty God for the gift of our babies. We have come a long way and I know one day they will be successful ladies.
May God bless Still A Mum for your love and support.